Something I’ve noticed since I started my journey to a better body 4 years ago is that everyone has an opinion about what you do. I get comments at work telling me I’m weird for lifting heavy weights and that my dietary habits are “disgusting”. Most of the time I laugh it off. I actually enjoy being different to everyone else. I love that there are not many females in my circle that do what I do. I like being the only girl in the gym that lifts heavy. I like the fact that I can enjoy double cream, cheese & butter on a daily basis and still lose weight whilst others around me are eating weight watchers crap and not seeing results.
But as the saying goes – opinions are like arseholes. Everybody has one.
Yesterday, I posted a picture to my facebook page where I compared a picture of me from 2010 to a picture of me taken a couple of weeks ago.
It was taken to demonstrate the progress I’ve made in the last three years and to serve as a reminder that building muscle is hard work. It takes time and dedication and isn’t going to happen overnight, in 6 weeks or even 6 months. I’m three years into my muscle building journey and I’m not where I want to be yet.
Later on in the day, I had the following comment on my photo:
“Oh I don’t like Ladies with Muscles – toned yes.”
I can’t lie, the comment actually made me really happy. Someone thinks I have muscles – hurrah! *does a happy dance*
But at the same time, it also pissed me off. Royally. Not because someone thinks “ewwwww, muscles on a woman – icky!” but because why would anyone think I give a damn about what they think about how I look?
Now listen carefully, because I want to make this crystal clear…
I don’t lift weights to make myself aesthetically pleasing for you
I can never understand why anyone would think they have the right to comment on the way other people look. I know I put myself out there and post these pictures and maybe it’s naive to not expect the occasional negative comment, but I actually wonder what goes through these people’s heads when they take to their keyboard to express their opinion to someone that never actually asked for it.
To anyone that feels the need to direct negative comments towards me or my pictures, I would like to say this to you:
I choose not to accept your negativity. Therefore, it still belongs to you.
I do what I do because it’s part of me. It’s who I am. I like the fact that my body is firm yet curvaceous. I love the fact that I look awesome in clothes…
and awesome out of clothes too ;)
I love the fact that I am strong. Not just “strong for a chick” but STRONG. I know I can walk into the gym at any time of the day or night and pick at least 100kg from the ground. How many other people can say they could do that?
So I’ll stick to what I’m doing, thanks. Next time you think of voicing your opinion about my nasty muscles, remember…
Your approval is not needed!
